Death, no matter when it occurs, is a difficult thing for us. It is especially hard when the one no longer with us is young. Last week our community suffered a shocking loss that even now, almost a week later, we struggle to wrap our brains around. Sam told Sarah yesterday that he didn't know what to do with these emotions he was feeling. When she asked him what he meant he explained that he felt loss and he never had before and he wasn't sure what to do with it.


While it may not be the first time some of us have felt loss we are all struggling with it. The questions have flown fast and furious since the news broke last week. What happened? When did it happen? How did it happen? We want answers. We need to make sense of it and somehow if we ask the right questions and get all of the answers we can make sense out of the unthinkable, the unbelievable, the unbearable.



When I was praying for the family last week I asked God to be merciful. And as soon as the words left my mouth I stopped. In my mind being merciful meant that this father and mother would still have their son. That a boy would still have his big brother. That a girl would still have her boyfriend and people would still have their friend. It was a very harsh reminder that His ways are not our ways.





It was a stark remembrance of the sin that taints our world and the one who seeks to destroy. It was a reminder that death is always ugly and painful but is also a defeated foe. Somehow, out of this hideous sorrow God is working out His good and perfect will. On this side, for those of us left to grieve and search for understanding, we feel the heaviness of a precious life gone. But Grant David, he stands before his King, holy and without regret that his life seemingly ended too soon. He knows, in a way that we cannot yet know, that from his first breath to his last, his first step to his final one, that he did what God required of him. 

And God's mercy? It is here, fully present, as we come together to weep with those who weep. His mercy shades our grief with the hope and truth that this separation is only temporary and that one day we will all stand before our King, knowing fully, finally,  just as we are fully known.

Later today many of us will gather for a memorial in honor of our young friend. Tears will fall and more than a little laughter will be heard as stories are told and memories are revisited. We will realize our questions don't matter and we'll realize the answers we have sought aren't really the answer. Mercy will be found as we come together, one family, but truly one body, in His name sharing in a burden far too heavy for one or two or even three to hold.

"Now may the Lord of peace Himself give you peace at all times and in every way. The Lord be with you all." 2 Thessalonians 3:16


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  1. Thank you so much for these words. Karin has had the same exact words - "I don't know what to do with these feelings!"...and they were spoken with such an angry tone. I have experienced tragedy (sudden, unexpected death) 3 times in the past 7 years, but this is a first for my children. It will be helpful for me to be able to tell them they are not alone. Tasha

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    1. It is a new thing for many of our kids I think. And close to home since Grant David was their friend and peer. May God grant you wisdom and right words to point your children to the great Comforter.

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  2. The feelings which are all consuming and sometimes confusing in the first few months of losing someone are so hard to deal with. Later on they will die down but the one that will remain will be the love that you had for that person and it helped our family to find a place to give it away to others. You can, as time goes on find a place to give the love that is still in your heart to others who need it. God bless you, we lost our 19 year old son 16 years ago during the Thanksgiving holiday. Prayers and blessings to all of you and may God's peace surround you.

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    1. Grace and peace to you. Thank you for your words of encouragement and comfort.

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  3. thankyou so much this boy went to my school and i needed that

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    1. He was a special young man and I know he was a blessing to you just as y'all were to him.

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  4. thank you so much this boy went to my school and it has been a hard week for the whole school.

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    1. We can only imagine. It has been a few years since the Henry boys were at Trinitas with us but the loss has still been profound. May you honor Grant's memory as you grieve.

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